I heard this song on the night the Dankpuna group post was made public and I only started to think about it after my initial anger had dissipated into a sinking depression. Even then, Aretha’s song seemed too upbeat. I was annoyed- I wish she had been more angry. more demanding. more sad. Maybe she should have sang Respect the way Nina Simone had sung Mississippi River. Maybe that would have done justice. Maybe that would have communicated the loss I felt when I read “It ain’t gonna suck itself”
After the song became a radical feminist anthem in the 60’s Aretha said in an interview:
“I don’t think it’s bold at all. I think it’s quite natural that we all want respect — and should get it”
Respect. It was all about respect. And I think we all found ourselves having to prove we were worth respecting. The last week was a fight, for some of us it felt like nothing short of a battle. Here was a crisis that demanded we prove to an institution that we were worth respect. Respect: Of friends who were nothing short of family. Of Teaching Assistants that were supposed to be teaching us-and teaching us only. Of Professors we respected, and loved. Of partners we loved and more than anything, trusted. Of an Institution that lied about being a family.
Listening to Respect in this environment got me thinking, what was Aretha so happy about? Why did she choose to sing her song like this? Up beat- complete with back up singers. And it was only at my fourth or fifth time listening to the song that I realised there was value to singing it the way she had. Aretha’s song is not apologetic. Her song communicates to the fullest- that she is worth that respect. And that she believes she is. There is no shrinking away from it and I think in a lot of ways I needed to hear that too.
Franklin’s song is a rendition of an earlier version sung by Otis Reddington. Reddington’s version was released in 1965 and is a song about a man demanding more respect when he comes home at the end of the day. He sings:
Hey, little girl, you’re so sweeter than honey
And I’m about to give you all my money
But all I’m askin’, hey
Is a little respect when I get home
Hey hey hey, yeah now
Respect is what I want from you
Respect is what I need
Respect is what I want
Respect is what I need
Got to, got to have it
Got to, got to have it
Got to, got to have it
Got to, got to have it
Talkin’
Give us, give us, give us, give us
Give us, give us, give us, give us
Give us, give us some baby, everything I need
It is supposed to be a humble appeal by a hard working man returning home to his family. I read it as entitled- “Got to, got to have it” sounded a lot like the men in my family. I thought of a man coming home from work and demanding that he be treated like an honorary guest. Cue Hum TV scenes of women serving chai to irritated men. Franklin’s version spins the song on its head and genders it. Her song affirms that she does not need Otis’ money “Baby, I got it/What you need/Do you know I got it?”
Franklin’s response becomes important in the context of the civil rights movement of the 50s and the wave of black feminism that followed it. The decade is characterized by women like Audre Lorde, June Jordan (See one of my favourite poems by her: https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/48762/poem-about-my-rights), Alice Walker and others that write of being displaced by two conflicting political movements. hooks writes of this as the “double bind”. Where black women faced racism in a movement dominated by white women and sexism in the civil rights movement. Inevitably, disowned by both. Black women found themselves up against black leaders that demanded women conform to more subservient roles. The independence that black women were forced into as a consequence of racism needed to be reversed so that the black man could have the white dream-complete with the suburban home and the beautiful docile housewife. Further, racism was believed to be a greater evil and women were demanded to be silent about their needs so that the black man could “restore his manhood”.
Franklin’s song thus pushes against this image of the black woman as supportive or docile, which happens to be the kind of woman that Otis is writing about. By using her upbeat tempo and back up singers Franklin communicates that black women did not need black man for anything other than their respect. She tells them that she has everything she already needs and if they don’t give her respect she can just as well leave. And the ong communicates that- I hear the song and I hear a woman who believes she is worth respect and will not stop short of anything else. Franklin chooses to do her song with her sisters. I think decision communicates the sisterhood and the unity that most black feminists were trying to create.
On a completely different note (I apologise if this seems like hawaye fire) I also thought of Ismat Chugtai and her exchange with her husband in The Lihaaf trial (Available here: http://www.urdustudies.com/pdf/15/28naqviExerpt.pdf) when I heard Respect. I think this more in line with political movements and not being supported by men on your side, a crisis the left is all too familiar with. Chugtai writes: “The Progressives neither berated nor commended me, and I found that reassuring” But she was berated. The friend she stays with in Lahore, Shahid Sahab, demonishis her for her vulgar writing style. When she says:
“And what about the filthy sentences you have written in Gunah ki Raten (nights of sin), actually giving explicit details of the sex act, just for titillation?”
His response is: “It’s different in my case, I’m a man.”
And again:
“You are an educated girl from a respectable Muslim family.”
We see men holding different standards or values to women fighting by their side. Whether it was the black civil rights movement or Chugtai writing in the 1940’s or even ‘allies’ responding to memes, women find themselves fighting for a degree of respect from their male counterparts. In the civil war, black men actively demanded women to be more subservient. In Ismat Chugtai’s case, the reaction she got from people on her side was silence. It was a nothingness reaction. She never wrote the same again.
Aretha, we’re still waiting on that respect.